What About Your Sexual Intelligence Quotient?

We all know about IQ, emotional intelligence, kinesthetic intelligence, and so forth. But what do we know about sexual intelligence? The term isn’t well-known, nor is it something that has been developed traditionally.

Sexual intelligence can be distinguished by two dimensions:

The first involves sexual energy that brings forth life in all that is alive — animals, human beings, and plants. This intelligence was around long before we became aware of ourselves, long before we knew about E=mc2. It’s a built-in intelligence present in sexual energy, given by nature, God, or the eternal consciousness. Sexual energy is the spark of this divine intelligence that created us.

The second dimension of sexual intelligence involves the human capacity to be self-reflective or aware of one’s own existence, and particularly of one’s life force energy that is sexual in nature. In contrast to animals, which can only follow their procreative wiring when in heat, human beings have the potential to bring awareness and consciousness to their sexual selves — their feelings, thoughts, sensations, and behaviors — which can create the opportunity to be at choice regarding the use of their life force or sexual energy.

Therefore, as reflective humans, we can develop the capacity to bring awareness to the spark of life within us and use this not only in sexual acts, but to create our whole lives. Our inquiry focuses on sexual intelligence that entails the systemic relationship of creativity and pleasure built into life force or sexual energy that can be found everywhere in life. We are particularly interested in bringing light to that systemic relationship inherent in the manifestation of sexual energy for the sake of consciously and joyously creating our lives, relationships, and careers.

Sexual Energy

As we learned in our physics and chemistry classes in school, energy can take many forms:

Electrical energy lights up the sky during thunderstorms and illuminates our homes at night.
Kinetic energy sends a ball flying through the air when we hit it with a bat.
Chemical energy drives our bodies’ systems and keeps us moving physically.
Thermal energy can heat our houses and the food we eat.
However, absent from high school and college curricula is human energy as it manifests in our bodies and consciousness. Human life force energy is sexual in nature (though we are not talking here about traditional sex education) and encompasses a range of states from subtle to intensely aroused. We become aware of this energy when it shows up in procreation, when we are having sex, but it can also be much vaster than and just as potent as what we experience during sex. It can be used to create whatever we want to bring into our lives such as good health, well-being, fulfilling relationships, endeavors, and/or careers.

The sex act is one way of experiencing and using sexual energy, but not the only way; intercourse is one stage on the continuum of experiencing sexual energy. Without sexual energy to spark our desires, none of us would be here. It is fundamental not just to human existence but to all of life as we know it and has been present since the very dawn of creation.

Though we cannot see it, life force or sexual energy is ever-present, both when we are aroused in the bedroom and when we are at rest and sex is the furthest thing from our minds — and during every state in between. It’s there when we’re doing mundane tasks like cooking dinner or getting dressed in the morning.

Sexual energy in its physical manifestation and experience is unique in that it’s creative and pleasurable. This allows for the continuing existence of life, which is part of us by nature. We can learn to draw on this awareness of creativity and pleasure, similar to when we’re in a loving space or viewing a work of art or anything in which we regularly find joy. Our contention is that when life force or sexual energy is unencumbered and free of past personal stories and collective interpretations that no longer serve us, creativity and pleasure are more accessible to us everywhere in life: where we live, in the people we surround ourselves with, in the work we do. When we learn sexual consciousness practices, creativity and pleasure start showing up as a default way of being in the simple process of living.

Becoming the Observer

Sexual intelligence begins when we bring intention and focused attention to our life force or sexual energy. Unlike animals that work simply on biological imperatives to keep their kind from becoming extinct, we have the ability to become the observer of our desires, impulses, wants, fears, and joys. Of course we’re wired in that biological dimension as well; in the big picture we’re animals ourselves, and it’s our inherent mission to continue to thrive generation after generation. In this dimension of sexual energy, we are machines — it doesn’t require consciousness on our part. It’s automatic and just happens whether we’re aware of it or not.

What separates us from the beasts, then, is the second dimension of bringing consciousness to sexual energy — our ability to be self-reflective or aware of our own existence, what we call the observer of the self. This uniquely human capacity allows us to rise above the biological miracle we have been put here to perform and recognize that we are at choice in how we live, feel, and act, including our sexual beingness.

Being at choice means we are able to see what is versus what we think should be. This allows us to become clear about what we truly want and take effective action toward fulfilling it. When we are aware of being at choice regarding our sexual beings we can tap into and use our sexual energy in a multitude of ways depending on what we want to create in our lives and relationships. We can use it in the sex act. We can connect with our sacredness and deepen the intimate connection with our beloved. We can integrate our sexual, emotional, and spiritual being. We can use it to fuel our work creatively or connect consciously with the people around us.

Developing this state of mind is essential to working with sexual energy, to tapping in to it and utilizing it to create fulfilling lives for ourselves. Without the observer mind, we can be doomed to an eternity of automatic and habitual behaviors that often produce suffering and a sense of being victimized by life. In other words, we live devoid of creativity and pleasure.

As a good example of the observer, let’s look at a moose walking through a forest, just going along its merry way. Then, suddenly, a big tree falls right in front of her. The moose looks at the tree, lifts her nose to smell it, then nibbles on the tree’s twigs and leaves. As she eats, rain starts to fall. The moose raises her head, enjoying and tasting the drops that fall on her face. When she’s had her fill she simply finds her way around the fallen tree and continues on her journey.

Now say a human is walking through the forest when suddenly a big tree falls right in front of him. He’ll look angrily at the tree, cursing and huffing: “Now I’m going to be late for my meeting. And what about my wife and children and my retirement fund? I have to make a bridge to get where I need to go! What? It’s raining too?” Throwing his hands up in despair and disgust, he’ll exclaim, “Why me, God? Why me?”

Becoming like the moose allows us to be in the present moment, witness what is, notice how we feel, and watch the chatter, thoughts, and interpretations in our minds. As humans we are programmed to dwell on the drama that’s already passed instead of focusing on the present. Instead of getting caught up in this chatter of our minds, we can cultivate our capacity to be like the moose — simply to be with what is happening right here and now. In this witness or observer state we are connected with ourselves and tap in to stillness and peace — and that’s the space where we can become sexually intelligent.

In our next article we will discuss how to get “sexually intelligent.”

Over the past decade, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth has assisted thousands of couples and singles expand their relationship and deepen their intimate connection. She is an internationally renowned workshop leader, relationship and intimacy coach and a certified Tantra Yoga teachers. Since founding the TantraNova Institute in Chicago, IL, in 2001 she has produced with her partner Freddy Zental the bestselling DVD series “Creating Intimacy & Love” and was featured on Showtime’s documentary series “Sexual Healing” and the Emmy Award Winning NBC show “Starting Over”.

They are the co-authors of the forthcoming book “Sexual Intelligence: The Rosetta Stone of the Twenty-First Century”. They are are the authors of the forthcoming book “Sexual Intelligence: The Rosetta Stone of the Twenty-First Century”.

TantraNova’s breakthrough technology in sexual intelligence recognizes the systemic relationship between life force or sexual energy, creativity and pleasure allowing for flow, joy and fulfillment in all areas of life! While other forms of intelligence such as IQ, emotional intelligence, kinesthetic intelligence, have been researched and evolved over the past few decades, sexual intelligence is not commonly known and understood.

What Do You Want From an Online Adult Store?

Couples in a long-term relationship as well as a new relationship may consider how they can enhance their love life by visiting an Online Adult Shop to look at sex toys, sexy lingerie, adult games or sexy night-wear. More and more couples are visiting these stores which, is proven by the growth in the sex toy industry and the ever-growing type of toys available. Not only are the sales of sex toys growing but so is the online availability of lingerie, sexy night-wear ad adult games. With this growth and the more liberal approach to fun in the bedroom what do you want when you visit an online adult store?

Discretion

One of the most important factors for customers of online adult shops is discretion. The site itself will display some images that you won’t want your children or mother to see when you are visiting, so you will need to practice your own discretion. More importantly if you purchase a product, whatever it is from one of these sites, you don’t want the package to arrive displaying the name of the site or the actual outer packaging of the product. The majority of the sites do of course use packaging which doesn’t show what the contents are, and if they didn’t you would be unlikely to return for more products.

Choice

If you want customers to return you need to entice them with a range of products that will give them a reason to return in the future. The growth of the market sector means that with more and more customers buying then choice and new products are essential for you as a couple and a visitor to an online adult store to have a reason to come back for more.

New Products

To keep you coming back for more and looking at the range of products and what will be your next purchase then the online adult shop has to offer new products on a regular basis, and tell you about it.

All businesses need to introduce new products, and in this market if new products added every month it keeps the customers interested with a new sex toy or set of sexy lingerie to fulfil all your desires.

These new products not only keep the existing customers coming back for more, they also mean that new visitors see a site which is not standing still and always has something new.

Price and Special Offers

The convenience of visiting an online adult store which demonstrates discretion, has a large choice of products with new products being listed on regular basis is great, but if the prices are too expensive then the visitors are unlikely to purchase. It is very easy to compare the prices of the products available from these online stores so the site owners must keep customers interested by giving special offers for new customers, returning customers and for special times such as valentines, Easter, Christmas, New Year or any other festival which presents a reason to offer customers a reason to buy.

Regular News and Updates

When a customer purchases from an online adult store the account that they create when checking out means that the site owner can send regular updates via email. This is a great tool for the site owner to get repeat business but also a superb way to receive news of new products and special offers as a customer.

As a customer if you are satisfied with your purchase and the overall experience why wouldn’t you want to return?

Easy Navigation

If the online adult store is offering you discretion, a large choice, new products, competitive prices and telling you as a customer about new products and special offers this can all fall down if the site is not easy to navigate.

Like any site when we first visit it will take us some time to get used to how the navigation around the site works. The first impression is important and the site has to have some familiarity in how to navigate as well as have great images and descriptions of the products.

Get all of this right and the online adult store will be build up a customer base that returns again and again. And the customer will enjoy a great sex life with his or her partner.

Can Sex Board Games Spice Up Your Love Life?

Can sex board games or sex card games, really spice up your love life? Yes! Sexy games for adults can definitely create a bond, inject some passion and even ignite a hot fervor between its players.

Just like games for children, games for adults pure purpose is entertainment. And just like when you were a kid, when you really get in to the game, they can definitely become addictive!

Adult sex board games can even make a great supplement to your couple’s sex toys, or that special lingerie in your draw. Because not only are they fun, playing adult games helps you maintain your connection by spending that all important quality time together. And sex card games are just the same. Like sneaky little packs of indulgent fun hidden away in your bedroom, or maybe as part of your personal adult fun drawer, they make a great addition to your sex toys or any other adult games you may have.

From striptease games, Kama Sutra sex position cards, or Naughty or Nice games that suggest romantic ideas or more audacious sexcapades, each sex card game is different.

And contrary to some beliefs, not all sex card games are sweet and simple vanilla love cards. You might just be surprised by what you can learn about your partner and even yourself, from a spontaneous and cheeky session of card game sex. And depending on your outlook and just how friendly you are with your friends, you can even extend the fun and the numbers of players depending on how many are willing.

Adult sex games are not only fun, they also make for a cost effective night in. Once you have purchased your sexy game, it can be played over and over again. A gift that keeps on giving if you will, and one that with practice you can definitely hone in on your playing skills creating more competition, more excitement and more sex.

How to Be a Sexual Man (Golden Tips)

Even though a man is aware of his nature that he is born to be a leader but still he acts like a whinny boy most of the time. According to women, men made women dominated in every area of life. They have lost the sexual masculinity from their nature. These statements of women are so true because when we communicate on validation level instead of attraction then we lose our masculine values. So, instead of feeling hurt and defensive, we need to understand that how to be a sexual man in our lives.

For an average man, “An exclusive sexy woman is like a million dollar check.” And unfortunately, this thinking of him demolishes his sexual traits. He always puts women on higher ranks and seeks the validation from them. During his life, he only focuses on attracting those higher rank women rather than making himself a sexual man.

Here I am giving you few precious tips that will make women see you as their “SEXUAL GOD”.

HOW TO BE A SEXUAL MAN?

Have you ever played chess? Have you ever noticed that even a soldier can become the center of the game? Well, I am giving you this example because for being a sexual man, it is not necessary whether you are king, rich or average. Your presence in environment is enough to curl the toes of women with extreme sexual attraction.

You would become the fantasy man of every woman if you focus on your traits. Read these below secret tips and adopt the traits of desirable sexual man.

1. Be the Worthy Man.
2. Be Extremely Sexual.

You can not be a sexual man without these two tips. These tips not only highlight the inner quality of you but also project you as a “Sexual God” in front of women. After reading these tips in detail, you would be surprised to know that there are much more hidden things which women desire in their fantasy man. So, let me shock you with the in-depth secrets which are highly attractive for women.

1. BE THE WORTHY MAN.

When it comes to women, most men think that only humor and body language do the magic in attraction. Unfortunately, these things drop them in friends’ category but never present them as worthy men. On the other hand, a worthy man covers the great deal of sexual attraction alone. He demonstrates control over his emotions, patience and life.

Few months back, I was having an interesting conversation with my one female friend, expert in human psychology. She said that, “Men can save majority of their time if they only focus on being a worthy man.” She also added, “Lack of masculinity in today’s men created the fantasy of rape for women.” According to her, it is really tough for women to find out a worthy man, a man who can fulfill all their emotional and sexual desires while keeping the attraction, interest and fun on higher level.

To help you understand the secret traits of worthy man, I am revealing one trait in simple words. This below trait not only leads you towards successful relationship but also makes you the sexual man in women’s arena.

• PERSONAL AUTHORITY: Authority is the primary need for being a worthy man. It allows you to project yourself as a dominant man. An authoritative man is a symbol of real masculinity. Also, in attraction it works wonderfully because girls want to be with a man who can dominate them. Your authoritative personality will never make her confuse or resentful entire life.

Now, you must be wondering that how to exactly project yourself as an authoritative man. Well, the only thing you need to do is to surround yourself with authoritative figures. Maintain good relationship with managers, restaurant owners, teachers and parents etc. Your relationships with authority figures keep your values on higher rank and nurture you as the worthy man.

For women, “An authoritative man is extremely sexual than average men.”

2. BE EXTREMELY SEXUAL.

As I said earlier, Authoritative man is extremely sexual than average man. Your authority makes women fantasize about you sexually. If you are in relationship then it will keep your woman faithful to you. Similarly, if you are dating then your personal authority will make women chase you.

Have you ever wondered that why women follow authoritative sexual man entire life? It is only because he exists in their sexual fantasies. He fulfills their emotional and sexual needs. Women desire a man who can dominate them and ravish them sexually. A part from romantic lovemaking, they want someone who can treat them roughly in sexuality. That’s why; the biggest sexual fantasy of women is “RAPE”.

You need to be extreme sexual for curving the toes of women with sexual pleasures. You can be the sexual man if you follow these below highly effective tips.

• It does not matter how old she is, “Always treat a woman like a virgin.” This strategy connects you with her on sexual and emotional level. This will put extreme sexual sensations inside her body.
• Use the power of “Sexual Whispering”. Whispering is the safest way that turns women on sexually and makes them see you with sexual lust.

“Be Her Sexual God.” If you want to know exactly that how to be a sexual man and create extreme sexual attraction then check this out… Be Her Sexual God.

Fun Birthday Party Games For Adults

Birthdays have always been associated with children since adults seem to be too busy to take part in their own birthdays. However, if you are hosting an adult birthday party, you will most definitely want to make it complete with some amazing birthday games. The fact is that contrary to what many people think, there are lots of birthday games suitable for adults making all the difference to the party. There are popular options you can settle for or try the more unique ones to add a beautiful twist to the party.

Birthday hot seat

It can be fun as the birthday guests are put in the spotlight to evaluate how well they know the host. Questions are fired to the players on the hot seat in a set time and the player with most correct answers wins. The questions can be made as funny as possible to keep the game hot enough.

Laughing game

It is a laughing game, but the player who maintains the straightest faces for the longest time takes the win. A laugh is naturally contagious and it will be fun trying hard not to laugh when everyone else is doing it. The elimination is done strategically as the laughs continue until a winner is determined.

I love you game

It is an amazing game to break the ice in a birthday crowd. People simply sit in a circle and one player stands and walks to a person of choice demanding for a smile of love. The approached person must resist giving the smile no matter what gimmicks the player uses to encourage that smile. Smiling people are eliminated and the last person sitting wins the game.

Puzzle games

They can be made up of different challenging puzzles that put the brain to work. In fact, the winning secrets are always so clear, but the harder the players try to think through the puzzles the harder they become. They are mind joggers and can be lots of fun as long as the interest is there. They are suitable for those who can’t take part in vigorous games during the party.

Inflatable games

They can be anything from sumo suit wrestling and sumo football, to giant jumping castles for adults. Other options in the category are giant slides, cash cube, dunk tank, giant twisters and bouncy boxing. They are among the more active birthday games that your guests can take part in to have some unique fun. The best thing is that all the items can be hired at very fair prices and to accommodate the number of guests taking an interest. If you are the host, you can ensure that the fun goes on to the end by hiring as many adult games as possible for a more active outgoing birthday crowd. You cannot miss out on the sumo suits since they are hilarious even before the game begins and everyone will enjoy wearing one and taking part in the games that you settle for in the suits.