How to Practice Sexual Fitness Everyday for Women Using Mind and Body

Like men, sexual health is an important aspect of your life. Although you may not think about sex or connect sexuality to your ego as men do, it remains a very important facet to quality of life. As a consultant to a dietary supplement company writing educational articles and practicing many years as a clinical psychologist, I have personally counseled and advised women on their sexual issues and endeavors for optimal sexual health. After years of experience in the field of psychology, I have come up with some practical recommendations for you to practice in order to optimize your sexual potential. Although written for a woman, men should read this article and support their female partner at all costs. Like many healthcare professionals, I believe in taking a holistic approach to sexual health and fitness.

The first step is to make your sexual fitness a daily goal. Just as frequent exercise is necessary for physical health, regular exercise and attention paid to your sexual being is vital. This is not to say you need to fixate on your sexual health and welfare as men do, but knowing yourself, your partner, and psychological well-being directly links to optimal sexual health. Just as you have a physical fitness regimen, so too should you devise a sexual fitness regimen. I do not mean you need to think and engage in sex as frequently as you exercise, but thinking daily about sexuality is not only healthy, I highly recommend it.

Physical well-being is paramount to your sexual health. This is why it is important to have an excellent open relationship with your doctor and/or gynecologist. There are many medical conditions that can impact a woman’s sexual well-being only she and her doctor can explore. From painful intercourse to a lack of sexual appetite, these problems can sometimes be rooted in a medical cause that can be treated with medication or doctor recommended steps. The key is feeling comfortable to discussing sexual issues with your doctor. There are millions of women who suffer from hormonal and medically based conditions. These same conditions though can be treated and sometimes cured with the help of a doctor.

Psychological well-being is crucial to your sexual health. Stress, anxiety, depression, and past traumatic experiences can all negatively influence sexual functioning. Just as a woman seeks medical advice from her doctor, a visit to a psychologist specializing in women’s issues may also be necessary to reduce mental health issues and past traumatic experiences from being problematic. A psychologist is a doctoral level clinician who is trained to diagnose and treat psychological issues which may impact a woman’s capacity to engage in sex in a comfortable manner. Although psychological conditions exist and require counsel, many women have emotional issues that can be addressed on their own or with a loved ones help. Unlike men, women seem impacted more by their environment than does their male counterparts. This is not to suggest men insulate themselves from their life stressors, but women tend to internalize these stressors more often and allow these life stressors to detract from their want, need, and desire for sexual engagement. Learning what life stressors are impeding their ability to practice regular sexual fitness can alleviate some of the obstacles causing sexual appetite and desire issues

As mentioned above, your sexual well-being is connected to the way you feel about yourself and the environment. Women are born, bred, and socialized to fixate on the way they appear to others. If you have a poor self-image or low self-esteem, it is almost impossible to engage in a healthy sexual lifestyle. It is truly unfortunate our society still places massive pressure on women to be thin, svelte, and seductive in appearance. Because of these societal expectations, women become far too involved in perceiving and feeling “less than” or unattractive to others. This is not to say you should not exercise or practice self-image improvement, but the negative self-image a woman often feels when she’s not to the level she thinks she should be will always directly impact her ability to feel sensual, sexual, and provocative.

Whereas men tend to fixate on their sexual prowess, women seem to fixate on their image as it appears to the outside world. The goal is to reduce this fixation of being your most attractive at all times and then working towards self- acceptance. When you feel reasonably secure about your image, you become vastly more comfortable feeling as a sexual creature that not only deserves attention, but also expects sensual interactions. Speaking to a psychologist, friend, or loved one can help you meet the goal of a healthy self-image.

Women are socialized to be incredible communicators and adept at expressing their feelings. You learn early in development the benefits of discussing your concerns to others as being both healthy and necessary to optimal psychological well-being. Unfortunately, men are not socialized this way and tend to lack the confidence or motivation to communicate to their loved ones about their sexuality. Although men suffer this proverbial disability to discuss their sexual issues to others, women can also be hesitant to discuss sexual matters with others. The key for you is to feel comfortable expressing your sexual thoughts and concerns with the ones you are engaging in sexual practices with. Your male counterpart may not appear to be listening or concerned with your sexual needs. The secret reality is your male counterpart will usually welcome whatever advice you give him since his ego is connected to your sexual perception of him. There are men who truly are clueless about women’s needs and expectations, but if you believe in practicing sexual fitness, you will quickly educate him.

Self-awareness is essentially, “Know Thy Self”. Despite religious and societal interpretations of masturbation and self-stimulation, it is highly recommended for you to know what arouses you sexually and helps puts you in a sensual mood. Self stimulation and masturbation is like exercise for the sexual senses. The more you know what arouses you, the better you will be at communicating to others what heightens your sexual prowess. The only way to communicate what your sexual trigger points are is to know what places on your body arouses you. Men have communicated to me in counseling on numerous times confusion about the female anatomy. They also confess they do not know how to touch and talk to their partner hoping to heighten her arousal. Women too often do not recognize what their sexual triggers are. Self-stimulation and masturbation helps you to recognize what arouses you and teaches how to identify the areas of your body that are sensitive to sensual touch. Masturbation not only educates a woman, but also has suggested in clinical studies to be a healthy behavior contributing to an increased sense of physical well-being. The more a woman is educated about her anatomy, and areas of sexual sensitivity can only positively contribute to her sexual life. The key is regularly practice self-stimulation as often as possible in order to achieve sexual fitness.

There are women who do not practice self stimulation or masturbation due to religious, philosophical, or for moral reasons. There are also women who do not practice masturbation because they simply don’t have the time due to work, children, or household responsibilities. When these reasons for not taking the time to practice self stimulation are apparent, then the next best thing is practicing sexual fantasy. There have been studies that have suggested men think about sex from every 10-15 seconds to every several minutes. There are no known studies that I have come across that have determined how often women think about sex. Although there may be these studies, I have not had the opportunity to review them. If there are such studies, I can almost guarantee women’s frequency of sexual thoughts are not nearly as frequent as men. Not to say that you should fantasize about sex as often as men, but I do recommend spending a little time each day engaged in sexual fantasy. To fantasize about sex is not only healthy for the mind and body, but it is great for stress management as well. Sexual thoughts and periods of sexual fantasy can also help you better understand your own thoughts and needs and teach you to be comfortable with sexuality in general. Fantasy is fantasy. There are no boundaries when it comes to an arousing sexual fantasy. The act of thinking about sex contributes to your positive feelings of well-being and potential increased urges of sexual desire.

In conclusion, volumes of books and videos have been produced to assist women in increasing their sexual prowess and appetite. I alone could spend hours writing about what I’ve heard from women seeking healthy sexual functioning. The goal for you is to understand how important it is to spend time thinking about your sexual self and how much better life becomes when you regularly engage in sexual exploration. A woman, like a man, is a sexual creature. The key for you is to endeavor upon using a holistic approach to obtain your optimal sexual functioning. The mind, body, and spirit all work synergistically to help you feel as a sexual creature with urges and needs. Sexuality may be a taboo subject for some, but it is clearly a mandatory part of our species survival. In its finite form, sexuality and the goal of sex is for the purpose of procreation. All animals procreate for survival of their species. Although procreation is the evolutionary goal of sex, that does not mean you have to relinquish your right to healthy sexual functioning and enjoyment. Men need to emphasize less the importance of sex, and women need to emphasize more their capacity for sexual enjoyment and deep yearning for sensual intimacy. Sexual fitness is an activity that requires you to think about and practice each day.

Dr. Michael Nuccitelli is a New York State licensed psychologist and a clinical and educational consultant for Herberex Inc. and Goliath Labs Inc. Dr. Nuccitelli areas of expertise include dietary supplement compliance guidelines, sports nutrition, human sexuality, forensic psychology, health/fitness, and psychiatric/psychological issues.

Fun Birthday Party Games For Adults

Birthdays have always been associated with children since adults seem to be too busy to take part in their own birthdays. However, if you are hosting an adult birthday party, you will most definitely want to make it complete with some amazing birthday games. The fact is that contrary to what many people think, there are lots of birthday games suitable for adults making all the difference to the party. There are popular options you can settle for or try the more unique ones to add a beautiful twist to the party.

Birthday hot seat

It can be fun as the birthday guests are put in the spotlight to evaluate how well they know the host. Questions are fired to the players on the hot seat in a set time and the player with most correct answers wins. The questions can be made as funny as possible to keep the game hot enough.

Laughing game

It is a laughing game, but the player who maintains the straightest faces for the longest time takes the win. A laugh is naturally contagious and it will be fun trying hard not to laugh when everyone else is doing it. The elimination is done strategically as the laughs continue until a winner is determined.

I love you game

It is an amazing game to break the ice in a birthday crowd. People simply sit in a circle and one player stands and walks to a person of choice demanding for a smile of love. The approached person must resist giving the smile no matter what gimmicks the player uses to encourage that smile. Smiling people are eliminated and the last person sitting wins the game.

Puzzle games

They can be made up of different challenging puzzles that put the brain to work. In fact, the winning secrets are always so clear, but the harder the players try to think through the puzzles the harder they become. They are mind joggers and can be lots of fun as long as the interest is there. They are suitable for those who can’t take part in vigorous games during the party.

Inflatable games

They can be anything from sumo suit wrestling and sumo football, to giant jumping castles for adults. Other options in the category are giant slides, cash cube, dunk tank, giant twisters and bouncy boxing. They are among the more active birthday games that your guests can take part in to have some unique fun. The best thing is that all the items can be hired at very fair prices and to accommodate the number of guests taking an interest. If you are the host, you can ensure that the fun goes on to the end by hiring as many adult games as possible for a more active outgoing birthday crowd. You cannot miss out on the sumo suits since they are hilarious even before the game begins and everyone will enjoy wearing one and taking part in the games that you settle for in the suits.

Causes and Treatment of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) is by far the most frequent problem occurring in female sexual dysfunctions. It is generally characterized by persistent or recurrent absence of sexual fantasies or desires. In other words, the woman is rarely in the mood for any form of sexual activity; she neither initiates sex nor seek sexual stimulation. This condition is also referred to as inhibited sexual desire, low sexual desire, impaired sexual interest, and low libido, among others.

Causes of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder may occur in a woman at any age. It may be present in adolescence and can persist throughout a woman’s life. However, HSDD often occurs during a woman’s adulthood, often times following a period of stress. The source of hypoactive sexual desire disorder may be multi-factorial illness, medications, and psychological issues.

Menopause

HSDD in women is more common as a result of menopause. Reduced estrogen to post-menopausal levels can lead to dryness of the vagina making sex painful which reduces motivation. The gradual decline of the hormones estrogen, progesterone and testosterone together serve to decrease drive.

Physical Problems

Physical ailments such as diabetes, heart diseases, vaginal yeast and urinary tract infections, neurological disorders, pelvic surgery, chronic liver disease and kidney diseases can all lead decreased or low sexual desire.

Psychological Problems

Psychological causes such as stress from work and family, relationship communication problems, anxiety, depression, and previous traumatic sexual experiences can also contribute to the development of this disorder.

Physical abuse

A lifelong or primary HSDD where a woman has never felt any sexual desire not exhibited interest in sex could be as a possible result of incest, sexual abuse or rape.

Repressive Cultures/Belief Systems

Certain repressive family attitudes towards sex which are often enhanced by rigid religious trainings can force individuals to think of sex as an immoral activity.

Unpleasant Initial Sexual Experience

Initial failed attempts at sexual intercourse or pains from first sexual experiences could also lead to HSDD.

Insufficient Sexual Hormone Levels

Low levels of testosterone may cause HSDD in males and females. However, while some argue that increasing testosterone levels even in those without low levels may also serve to increase sex drive; others are of the opinion that HSDD in males and females rarely results from insufficient levels of the male sex hormone, testosterone.

Relationship Boredom

A woman experiencing stagnation or boredom in a relationship can develop an acquired HSDD.

Medication Side Effects

The usage of antidepressants for depression, antihypertensive medication, and oral birth control pills may interfere with sex drive, arousal, and orgasm leading to the development of HSDD.

Sexual Function Impairment

Impairment of sexual functions such as vaginismus (an involuntary contraction or spasm of the pelvic floor muscles and outer third of the vagina resulting from an unconscious desire to prevent vaginal penetration thus making it impossible or very painful) can develop into HSDD. This may be due to incompatibility in sexual interest between the sexual partners. This can also occur in the presence of a sexually demanding partner.

Dyspareunia

Dyspareunia or painful intercourse due to surgery, injury or infection may also cause HSDD. Also inadequate lubrication at the time of penetration from insufficient foreplay can also cause painful intercourse.

General symptoms of HSDD in patients include infrequent and eventual absence of sexual activity; less enjoyment of sexual activities than she used to; avoidance of sex; and have fewer or no erotic dreams and sexual fantasies. In a selective and focused HSDD, there might be zero interest in having sex with their partners but have normal or increased real/fantasized sexual desires toward other men.

Treatment options for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

Treat of HSDD is typically directed at removing or alleviating the underlying cause e.g. relationship misunderstanding, depression, and other sexual dysfunction (especially arousal or orgasm difficulties). When the problems causing HSDD arise from issues with sexual arousal or performance, then these dysfunctions will need to be directly addressed. It is acknowledged that majority of HSDD cases are situational in nature arising from dissatisfaction and loss of interest in the sexual partner. Thus there will be need for treatment to be within the context of the relationship itself and as such, it is common for both partners to be involved in therapy.

The use of antidepressants like Prozac and Paxil of which women are major consumers, has been known to be a major cause of decrease in libido in as much as 60 percent of patients. Where possible, it is advisable to switch to a lower dosage or to one that has less of a sexual side effect, like Celexa, Effexor, or Wellbutrin.

On the pharmaceutical side, testosterone supplementation in individuals with testosterone levels below the normal range (20 nanograms per deciliter) seems to be the treatment of choice. Although testosterone has not been approved for the treatment of HSDD by the FDA, studies have shown that several women who have used the testosterone patch have reported significant increase in the frequency of sexual activity and satisfying desire.

Can Sex Board Games Spice Up Your Love Life?

Can sex board games or sex card games, really spice up your love life? Yes! Sexy games for adults can definitely create a bond, inject some passion and even ignite a hot fervor between its players.

Just like games for children, games for adults pure purpose is entertainment. And just like when you were a kid, when you really get in to the game, they can definitely become addictive!

Adult sex board games can even make a great supplement to your couple’s sex toys, or that special lingerie in your draw. Because not only are they fun, playing adult games helps you maintain your connection by spending that all important quality time together. And sex card games are just the same. Like sneaky little packs of indulgent fun hidden away in your bedroom, or maybe as part of your personal adult fun drawer, they make a great addition to your sex toys or any other adult games you may have.

From striptease games, Kama Sutra sex position cards, or Naughty or Nice games that suggest romantic ideas or more audacious sexcapades, each sex card game is different.

And contrary to some beliefs, not all sex card games are sweet and simple vanilla love cards. You might just be surprised by what you can learn about your partner and even yourself, from a spontaneous and cheeky session of card game sex. And depending on your outlook and just how friendly you are with your friends, you can even extend the fun and the numbers of players depending on how many are willing.

Adult sex games are not only fun, they also make for a cost effective night in. Once you have purchased your sexy game, it can be played over and over again. A gift that keeps on giving if you will, and one that with practice you can definitely hone in on your playing skills creating more competition, more excitement and more sex.

What Do You Want From an Online Adult Store?

Couples in a long-term relationship as well as a new relationship may consider how they can enhance their love life by visiting an Online Adult Shop to look at sex toys, sexy lingerie, adult games or sexy night-wear. More and more couples are visiting these stores which, is proven by the growth in the sex toy industry and the ever-growing type of toys available. Not only are the sales of sex toys growing but so is the online availability of lingerie, sexy night-wear ad adult games. With this growth and the more liberal approach to fun in the bedroom what do you want when you visit an online adult store?

Discretion

One of the most important factors for customers of online adult shops is discretion. The site itself will display some images that you won’t want your children or mother to see when you are visiting, so you will need to practice your own discretion. More importantly if you purchase a product, whatever it is from one of these sites, you don’t want the package to arrive displaying the name of the site or the actual outer packaging of the product. The majority of the sites do of course use packaging which doesn’t show what the contents are, and if they didn’t you would be unlikely to return for more products.

Choice

If you want customers to return you need to entice them with a range of products that will give them a reason to return in the future. The growth of the market sector means that with more and more customers buying then choice and new products are essential for you as a couple and a visitor to an online adult store to have a reason to come back for more.

New Products

To keep you coming back for more and looking at the range of products and what will be your next purchase then the online adult shop has to offer new products on a regular basis, and tell you about it.

All businesses need to introduce new products, and in this market if new products added every month it keeps the customers interested with a new sex toy or set of sexy lingerie to fulfil all your desires.

These new products not only keep the existing customers coming back for more, they also mean that new visitors see a site which is not standing still and always has something new.

Price and Special Offers

The convenience of visiting an online adult store which demonstrates discretion, has a large choice of products with new products being listed on regular basis is great, but if the prices are too expensive then the visitors are unlikely to purchase. It is very easy to compare the prices of the products available from these online stores so the site owners must keep customers interested by giving special offers for new customers, returning customers and for special times such as valentines, Easter, Christmas, New Year or any other festival which presents a reason to offer customers a reason to buy.

Regular News and Updates

When a customer purchases from an online adult store the account that they create when checking out means that the site owner can send regular updates via email. This is a great tool for the site owner to get repeat business but also a superb way to receive news of new products and special offers as a customer.

As a customer if you are satisfied with your purchase and the overall experience why wouldn’t you want to return?

Easy Navigation

If the online adult store is offering you discretion, a large choice, new products, competitive prices and telling you as a customer about new products and special offers this can all fall down if the site is not easy to navigate.

Like any site when we first visit it will take us some time to get used to how the navigation around the site works. The first impression is important and the site has to have some familiarity in how to navigate as well as have great images and descriptions of the products.

Get all of this right and the online adult store will be build up a customer base that returns again and again. And the customer will enjoy a great sex life with his or her partner.